“Hey, I’m not totally perfect,” my friend Gia likes to say. “I’ve got this little chip in my tooth right here.”
LOL, but seriously, aren’t we all a little like this: always pushing ourselves, expecting perfection? And when we don’t get it (it’s easy to find a tiny “chip” in even our greatest victories), we’re so busy stressing over the small imperfection that we forget to celebrate the success.
Or we think that ignoring our successes and sprinting ahead to the next challenge makes us more “serious” about our goals.
Or we’re too worried about losing our edge to stop and give ourselves a well-deserved pat on the back.
Or we just don’t want to let ourselves believe we’re “good enough.”
So what ends up happening?
We literally blow right past our successes! But our failures? Those we put under a microscope because we’re sure we can learn something from them. We zero-in on them, stress about them, read articles on how to fix them and maybe books on how to avoid repeating them.
Beautiful someone, this is so backwards!
Because, think about it: it’s our successes — not our failures — that tell us when we’re at our best, our strongest, our smartest, our most resourceful. What if we put our successes under a microscope instead, and started studying the who, what, when, where, why, and how of when we accomplish the most?
We could ask ourselves things like:
- “What did I do this time that really worked?”
- “Why did it work?”
- “Who helped me?”
- “How can I have more successes like this in my life?”
- “What does this success tell me about my strengths?
It’s like the easiest real life magic trick: when we have answers to these amazing questions — when we know when and how we are at our very best — we can recreate these conditions, expect success, and get it.
So imagine if, next time we had a victory in our lives (we completed a big project, reached a three-year goal, conquered a fear of public speaking, hit an “impossible” health target…), we stopped — not just to celebrate, but to brainstorm the who, what, when, where, why, and how we’re at our very best?
Think of the inspiration we’d get from our answers!