…from my next book, Yes Changes Everything! Coming in May 2020!

Are you creative? Most people say, “Um, no.” They think only the da Vinci’s of the world, musicians, writers, and performing artists are creative. Those are the people with the secret special inborn talent that the rest of us just don’t have!

But you know what? I think we’re all creative; we just need to think about creativity differently.

Creativity is just bringing something new to life.

When we’re stuck for a word, it’s creative to look it up or even to ask people around us: “What’s another word for house?” and then use sanctuary, dwelling, or habitat in what we’re working on.

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…from my next book, Yes Changes Everything! Coming in May 2020!

Regret is a kind of guilt—something that definitely doesn’t belong in our happy, healthy, sane lives! Regrets are things we’re sorry for. Mistakes we think we’ve made. Chances we didn’t take. Opportunities we jumped on that didn’t go so well. Things we blurted out at the wrong moment. Things we didn’t say. People we trusted that we shouldn’t have. Good job choices we let slip by.

Regrets are a huge form of clutter that stands in the way of yes. The heavy guilt of regret keeps us from opening the door to good in our lives. It makes us think we don’t deserve good things — so new opportunities, people, experiences? “Um, no. Because well I regret some mistakes I made in the past…”

It’s like we’ve drawn a sad frame around these situations that fills with matching images, i.e., if we call these mistakes, regrets will fill the frame.

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• “What makes you think you could ever…?”
• “Look, I know you. I know what you’re capable of, and this definitely isn’t it.”
• “Hey, I knew you when you couldn’t even spell. You’re gonna get a Master’s in Literature?”
• “What’s wrong with my life that you think yours should be so much better?”
• “What makes you think you should have a bigger house? Just be glad you have a roof over your head at all.”
• “You should stick with what you know.”
• “You? Really?” (*condescending chuckle plus eye roll*)

Sometimes, it’s like all we have to do is mention an exciting goal, and the naysayers start in like this. Maybe they tried the same thing, it didn’t work out, and they want to help us avoid the pain they went through. They’re actually trying to help.

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